Part 6 – A coffee and a visit from the past…

The ex-resurfaced…

So it was a Saturday morning in mid-April and I received a whatsapp message, from what I can remember it said something along the lines of “hey I’m in your city and wondered if you wanted to meet up…” I had to do a double take, then I realised the message was from my ex..the ex of which I was in a relationship with for 16 years and who chose to leave me 7 whole years ago!

A long pause

I was in shock, I paused for a long time as I didn’t believe what I was reading. Anyway, I left it and didn’t respond for some time then the curious side of me kicked in. What on earth did this man want after all this time?! He must want something or something is wrong? It’s definitely one of the two…So my curiosity got the best of me and I decided to meet him.

The meeting

I cannot remember the last time I saw him, it had been years.  Anyway, I turned up at the coffee bar and he was already there…strange for him as he was never good with timekeeping.  He seemed so happy to see me and was asking me if I wanted to have lunch…I was like no I’ll just stick to a coffee.  I do not know what planet he was on, did he think this was a date or what?

Anyway, he proceeded to talk my head off about how amazing and successful his life was. He spoke to me about his current partner and I spoke about mine, I noticed his body language shift at this point and he seemed very uncomfortable when he saw how happy I was when I was talking about my partner.

Another headache

When we were talking my head started to hurt, I remember holding my head and gritting my teeth through the pain. I remember him looking concerned and asking me if I was ok, I said I was fine and it was just the usual headache and proceeded to take some tablets. I didn’t realise at the time but now that I’m writing about it and thinking through the series of events, headaches did become a regular occurrence for me during a very small space of time.

So what did he want?

The meeting was drawing to a close and we were leaving the cafe, so I said ‘right cut the crap what do you want?” He was very defensive in his response so I said: “You didn’t call me here after all this time for nothing, you must have wanted something?” His response was that he was in the area and thought about me, so wondered if I wanted to meet up…I just looked at him and said “alright “ and laughed.  He looked incredibly uncomfortable that after all this time I still knew him better than he knows himself.  Lol

We said our goodbyes and went our separate ways. After meeting him I thought that’s when you know you are over someone, it’s such a wonderful feeling. My instincts told me that he didn’t feel the same…but I won’t delve into that.

Unspoken words…

You see the thing is when you’ve been with someone for nearly half your life you know them well, you potentially know them better than they know themselves. Time may move on, people may move on, but the foundation of someone’s personality rarely changes at this stage in life. He had clearly forgotten how well I knew him and that he couldn’t pull the wool over my eye’s. I knew that he called me to meet him because there was something he wanted to tell me, but for some reason, he didn’t end up telling me.

I laughed to myself and said, “the universe will find a way of telling me, it always brings the answer right to me, without me having to look.”

My 30’s have been an experience let me tell you…there is so much I could share with you from this past relationship, I could create a blog for this part of my life alone! But what I have learned is that the universe has a funny way of showing you certain things and you must learn to trust it.

“The following month… The universe showed me something huge, beyond belief!”

February 21, 2018 7:30 pm

Part 5 – A few subtle signs…

February 14, 2018

Part 7 – My life changed in just one day…

February 28, 2018

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